My dad would often joke about how he wanted to leave this world. He would say 'On a flaming pyre into the ocean like the Vikings did!' We would all laugh at how preposterous the idea was! C'mon now, really?!
As he lay in his hospital bed I wanted to make him laugh. Give him a reason for a moment to forget his pain and focus on something else even if just for a minute.
I said 'Hey dad, remember how you wanted us to send you off on a flaming pyre into the ocean?'
He nodded and smiled.
'You know that the EPA is never going to allow that.'
He nodded again sadly.
'I think I have a solution! How about we do the flaming pyre but in miniature?! Let's ask Uncle Peter to build you a boat, we'll put some of your ashes in there, set it on fire and send it out into the Straight of Georgia! Would you like that? Would that be okay?'
He grinned broadly and maybe gave me a thumbs up.
So that's what we did. Uncle Peter built a 30 inch deep hulled sailboat that was amazing. We had dad's memorial out on the beach where my sister sang, my brother played the bagpipes, my husband played a song, my uncle read a poem and my other brothers lit the boat on fire and sent him out to sea. A lone eagle circled above. It was exactly what he would have wanted.
We also sent him 90 balloons for his birthday and one for Emma.